Self Image and Confidence | Boudoir | Amber Tyler | Photographer

A while back I posted on my facebook page asking ladies to chime in and tell me what it is about doing a boudoir or glamour shoot that scares them. I got a ton of response and it inspired me to write a blog post to help clarify exactly how I do boudoir and why I love it.

One of the main responses was poor self image or low self esteem. I know most of you have seen the Dove videos that have been circulating the internet, the ones about how we see ourselves so differently than how the rest of the world sees us. Most of the time we are way harder on ourselves and believe things about ourselves that just aren't true. We as women obsess over our imperfections while ignoring the parts that are beautiful and are what the majority of people see.

Another question I asked shortly after this one, was for ladies to tell me what they consider is most beautiful about a woman. It was no surprise that the majority of answers included confidence. That a woman that is confident is way sexier or more beautiful than a skinny body or large boobs, or any other image society portrays as "the image we all want to have". So here is what I am finding.. we have a large amount of women that are afraid to step in front of the camera because of poor self image because they think they have an imperfect body.. Yet we seem to agree that being confident is what beauty and being sexy is all about. There's a disconnect here. What we are saying and how we are feeling aren't matching up.

Here is how I look at it- and some may not agree, but here we go. I believe that a good belief in your own self image and confidence go hand in hand. Really, how easy is it to have confidence if you feel like you are ugly? We all know that you aren't, but you have to love yourself before you can exude confidence. That's when we go back to how we see ourselves and how others see us. Try as hard as you can to set aside your fears and insecurities just for a day and try to see yourself the way that people love you, see you. Many of my fans have children.. Moms, think of how amazing your children think you are, why should you think of yourself as anything less than amazing?

Why I love glamour and boudoir- I am able to for just a moment get rid of all of your self doubt and insecurities. My goal is to create images that just show you how others really see you. Your beautiful self. Yes you get to get all dolled up with professional make up and have your hair done, that isn't to make you look different, that is to show you that I want you to have the best possible experience and not worry about if you did your make up or hair right, or if that blemish or under eye baggies will show up on the pictures. I want you to come in knowing your photos will be amazing and you will always remember this experience. I am sure once you do see how beautiful you really are, you can't help but have more confidence.

Amber Tyler | Portrait Photographer | Lewiston ID | Clarkston WA